Question: Can HireCoach help me find dates?
Patt's Response: HireCoach does not directly help you find a date. We focus on helping you make the best dates possible and meet your dating goals. Sometimes, however, through coaching clients can identify new methods and places to meet someone to date.
Question: I have had several long term relationships which started out as great dates, but turned into pain and distrust. I don't feel like I can risk dating again, but I do not want to be alone all of the time. How can I deal with the risk?
Patt's Response: You can not eliminate the risk of pain from the dating process. If you constantly make bad choices, however, and have experienced dysfunction and trauma in your life, you may need counseling. If you do not need it or have completed counseling, coaching will help. Coaching will guide you to increase the chance of a successful experience. Remember: You Have Not Communicated Until What You Meant Your Listener Understood. Communication is not "hearing what is said." You can increase communication skills for dating by consulting a coach.
Question: The last date I had was over 20 years ago! I am terrified about dating after so long! How do I learn to date?
Patt's Response: Many men and women over 40 feel that same way. A dating coach can help you develop an action plan to reduce your fears. Dating is appropriate at all ages. It is a way to enjoy time with someone, to get acquainted or to make a lasting connection.
Question: I have 2 children at home with me. I don't have enough time for them, much less to date. How can I date?
Patt's Response: Time management is always a challenge for parents--especially single parents. We all have the same 24/7--what we do with our time is what we make a priority. If you want to date, coaching can help you with priority setting and time management.
Question: Too many of my dates end in virtual disaster--with tension and confusion over sexuality issues. What can I do?
Patt's Response: This is a frequent challenge. Coaching can guide you to identify your sexual desires and needs along with ways to express them. You can develop behavioral communication and strategies to avoid the tension in advance.
Question: I am over 40 and have never been married. What can a dating coach do to support me?
Patt's Response: As a relationship expert and your dating coach, Patt can assist you in logically analyzing your choices and patterns in past dating relationships while respecting your emotions and values. She will assist you with establishing reasonable goals for action based on her knowledge and expertise applied to your values and experience.
